Watch What You Say
By Rabbi Pinchos Lipschutz
Rav Eliyohu Mann of Bnei Brak would speak with Rav Chaim
Kanievsky daily, and people who had questions or sought brachos from Rav
Chaim would often call him. One day, a rebbi contacted him.
“I need your help,” he said. “Out of the clear blue, my
young son suddenly began to suffer from psychotic episodes. I made a cheshbon
hanefesh to try to determine why Hashem would punish us in that way. I
suspect that it may be a punishment for me telling my class that Rav Chaim
Kanievsky was not especially smart when he was young, but because he dedicated
himself to studying Torah, he became wiser and wiser the more he learned, until
he became a gaon and the gadol hador.
“My intentions were pure. I meant to inspire my students to
be diligent in their learning, even if they didn’t feel that they were smart
enough to develop into Torah giants. I totally did not mean to impugn Rav Chaim
in any way.
“Please tell him my story and ask him to forgive me so that
my son will be well again.”
Rav Mann approached Rav Chaim and told him about the rebbi’s
call and request for mechilah. Rav Chaim laughed and said, “I am still
not smart.”
In his humility, he didn’t see any offense in what the man
had said and saw no need for forgiveness.
When Rav Mann phoned the rebbi to convey to him Rav
Chaim’s reaction, the man was upset. “Please ask him again to forgive me. I
feel that I need forgiveness for what I said.”
Instead of returning to Rav Chaim to ask him again, Rav
Mann approached Rav Michel Yehuda Lefkowitz, a leading gadol in his time
who had served as a rebbi of Rav Chaim Kanievsky in his younger years.
He told him what had happened and asked him what he thought.
Rav Michel Yehudah responded that he remembered Rav Chaim
from when he taught him in his youth and said that he was brilliant back then
as well. Therefore, the man needs forgiveness. “You must go back to Rav Chaim
and ask him again,” he said.
Rav Mann returned to Rav Chaim. When he began telling him
that he went to see his rebbi, Rav Michel Yehuda, and had posed the
question to him, Rav Chaim immediately said that he was fully mochel the
man for what he said and he should consider himself forgiven.
Within a few days, the boy’s mental health was restored.
A fantastic, true story about the great gadol whose
loss we are still mourning, as well as about the power of speech and how
careful we must all be when we speak about others.
This week’s parsha of Tazria, and Metzora
which we will lain next week, deal with the halachos of a person
afflicted with tzoraas. Though its laws are quite complex, we are all
familiar with the basic concept. A patch of skin, or clothing, or a home
becomes infected with pigment changes. A kohein is called to inspect and
render a decision regarding the status of the stain. If he deems it tzoraas,
the offender is secluded.
While tzoraas is usually described as leprosy or
some other disease, in fact it is not a disease. Rather, it is a signal from
Hashem to repent and do teshuvah for various sins.
On Shevi’i Shel Pesach, we read Parshas
Beshalach and the story of Yetzias Mitzrayim. The posuk (Shemos
15:26) states, “Kol hamachalah asher samti b’Mitzrayim lo osim alecha ki ani
Hashem rofecha.” Hashem promises that if we follow His mitzvos, He
will not bring upon us any of the diseases He brought upon the Mitzriyim.
The ailments and diseases that befell the Mitzriyim were
Divine punishment for their treatment of the Jews. There was no cure for them.
When a person is infected by illness, it is similar to a
conventional vaccine. The vaccine works by planting into the body, a strain of
the illness that is weak enough for the body to fight off. The process
strengthens and inoculates the person from the disease. The sickness itself is
what causes good health. We believe that disease and yissurim are for a
higher purpose, sometimes perceived and often times not. We trust that our
Doctor has our best interests in mind. We therefore say, “Ki Ani Hashem
rofecha.” If He wishes it so, then we will be healed.
The Chazon Ish would say that each generation
experiences a new class of diseases for which it has no cure. In generations
prior, people would die from typhus, smallpox and measles, and desperate people
hoped valiantly for the day that medication would be found to cure them. Once
the world was rid of those feared maladies, new diseases were diagnosed and
spread, without the ability to cure them.
This is to remind us that Hashem is the Rofei cholim.
Doctors are His messengers. They do not hold the key to cures unless the
Creator wills it so.
This concept is explicit in the words of the Rambam (Hilchos
Mikvaos 11:12), in his closing remarks on the topic of purification:
“Impurity is not filth that can be washed away with
water, but, rather, a scriptural decree that calls for intent of focus of the
heart. Chazal therefore teach that one who immersed but did not intend to
purify himself is considered as not having been toiveled.
“Although it is a gezeiras hakosuv, there is an
allusion inherent in the act of tevilah. One who focuses his heart on purity is
indeed cleansed through immersion, even though there was no noticeable change
in his body. Similarly, one who focuses his heart on removing the contamination
of the soul - namely, evil thoughts and negative character traits - becomes
purified when he resolves within his heart to distance himself from such
counsel and immerse his soul in the waters of knowledge.”
Thus, it is the sacred role of the kohein to
determine whether a person is a metzora. The task of the kohein
is to bring people closer to Hashem through removing sin, which causes
separation between man and his Maker. He helps people purify themselves. Tzora’as
is not a medical condition. It arises from chet, and thus the kohein
intercedes to help the victim repent from his chato’im, which brought
about his condition. He then achieves the desired healing.
We are familiar with the pesukim that state, “Mi
ha’ish hechofeitz chaim oheiv yomim liros tov. Netzor leshoncha meira
usefosecha midabeir mirma” (Tehillim 34:13-14). One who desires life
should be careful not to use his mouth for bad purposes and not to speak
improperly.
Man causes tzora’as to be brought upon him, for it
is a punishment for people who do not follow the admonitions of that posuk
and speak ill of others. Those who do not appreciate other people, who are not
concerned about the feelings of others, or who cavalierly destroy reputations
of fellow Jews are punished and banished from the camp. For seeking to create
separation between the people they gossiped about and their communities, they
are placed in isolation.
We no longer merit this precise Divine message. We speak lashon
hora at will and think that we won’t suffer consequences. In fact, while we
don’t come down with tzora’as, we are beset by other punishments, whose
cause is not as obvious.
The loving Rofei sends us hints of disapproval. We
are afflicted with various aches, pains, and ailments. We go to the doctor,
fill prescriptions, and seek to be healed. We are lulled into thinking that the
sickness or pain is caused and cured by something physical.
How wrong we are.
Sometimes, we go about dealing with life’s serious issues
in a superficial manner. Life is a long learning process. As we grow and learn
and go through the experiences that make up life, we gain the tools we need to
be able to contend with and hopefully overcome many of the challenges we face.
When we conduct ourselves and think maturely and intelligently, we are better
able to remain healthy, strong and vibrant. To merit recovery from illness and
pain, we need to know that every limb and part of the body receives its
sustenance from a specific mitzvah. Every ailment is caused by a
specific aveirah.
The Gemara in Maseches Avodah Zarah (55a)
quotes the words of a posuk that we recite in the tefillah of
Nishmas each Shabbos as we say that Hashem saved us from “chola’im
ra’im vene’emonim - harsh and faithful diseases.” How can illness be
referred to as faithful?
The Gemara explains that they are faithful to keep
the promise they make. They have a mission, they are sent from Heaven for a
reason, for a specific amount of time. Once that time elapses, they are directed
to leave a person’s body. They are faithful to that oath.
There is no longer tzora’as. But that is not
necessarily a blessing. Were that so-called disease still in existence, we
would be very careful about speaking lashon hora. It would disappear
from our midst. The cause and effect would be plainly evident.
And it’s not only tzora’as. It’s all diseases. It’s
not only lashon hora. It’s all the aveiros. The Medrash
teaches that there are ten parshiyos of negoim, just as there are
ten cardinal mitzvos. If Am Yisroel observes the Aseres
Hadibros, then Hashem protects them from negoim. However, if they
disobey the Aseres Hadibros, they are plagued.
We have to recognize that our tumah, taharah
and welfare depend on our actions. The Gemara in Maseches Sotah
(21a) teaches, “Torah magna umatzla,” Torah fortifies and
protects. We know that “tzedakah tatzil mimovess,” charity saves one
from death (Mishlei 10:2).
Just as tzedakah has the power to save a person from
death, tefillah has the power to bring about salvation. Torah surrounds
us with armor in the face of punishment. Every act we perform, including the
way we think and speak, has the ability to determine the quality of our lives.
The posuk (Vayikra 18:5) states, “Ushemartem
es chukosai v’es mishpotai asher yaaseh osam ha’adam vochai bohem.” If you
will observe My mitzvos, they will give you life. From this posuk,
we derive that pikuach nefesh is doche Shabbos. That means that
the posuk is speaking not only in an allegorical sense - that mitzvah
observance enhances life - but in a very literal sense as well. Observance of
the Torah’s chukim and mishpotim is life-inducing.
Dovid Hamelech sang, “Shivtecha umishantecha heima
yenachamuni - Your rod and staff comfort me.” Baalei mussar
teach that the comfort Dovid Hamelech derived from Hashem’s “rod and staff” was
similar to the comfort a stray sheep receives from the prodding tap of its
master. The wayward sheep had veered from the path and group. It was lost,
alone and afraid. Finally, it was found by the shepherd, who hit it with his
staff. Along with the blow came a sense of belonging, of being watched once
again, and of being cared for. The stick striking its back stung, but it was
comforting nonetheless.
At the shivah for Rav Shmuel Halevi Wosner, his
children recounted that their father never raised his voice to rebuke them and
never slapped them. One of the children asked him how he understood a posuk
that seems to indicate that slapping children is a sign of love: “Choseich
shivto sonei beno - One who withholds the stick hates his son” (Mishlei
13:24).
Rav Wosner explained, “The lesson of the posuk is
not that a father should hit his son. Rather, the explanation is that a wise
father learns to keep a stick nearby to remind his son of its existence. The
stick is a tool, but the loving father finds a way not to have to use it.”
He uses it by not using it. The threat is ever-present, and
when the child thinks of misbehaving, he controls himself because he doesn’t
want that stick on his back.
We have seen and experienced the Divine staff all too
often. Like frightened sheep, we have been prodded back to the flock,
influenced to stay on the correct path. We see through the darkness and
appreciate the message that after making many mistakes, Hashem still hopes for
our return. He hasn’t forgotten us, even for a moment.
Ki anu tzonecha, ve’Atah Roeinu.
May everyone suffering from disease be cured, and may we be
free of all plagues and speedily merit the ultimate healing.
Dovid Hamelech says in the 15th chapter of Tehillim,
“Hashem, who merits to inhabit your tent, to live on Your holy mountain? He
who walks purely, does justice and speaks truth from his heart. Slander doesn’t
appear on his tongue; he doesn’t wrong his friend and doesn’t slur those close
to him. He despises contemptible people and honors those who fear Hashem. He
keeps his word and oath even when it hurts him. He doesn’t take interest for
lending people money and never accepts bribes. Whoever possesses these
characteristics will never falter.”
As we study the parshiyos of tzora’as, let us
begin our return to good health by reforming how we deal with each other,
giving attention to our middos and observance of the mitzvos, chukim
and mishpotim.
May all those who suffer find relief, may all the ill be healed, may all
the lonely be comforted, and may we all merit the geulah sheleimah
bemeheirah. “B’Nissan nigalu ub’Nissan asidin ligoel” (Rosh
Hashanah 11b). May it be this month.