Holy People
By Rabbi Pinchos Lipschutz
It is now over seven weeks since
we were introduced to the coronavirus and locked into our homes. Since then,
thousands have died and many more have lost their livelihoods. Life as we knew
it has been turned upside down. What used to be perceived as necessities are no
longer even necessary, and things we thought we couldn’t live without are long-
ago luxuries.
This week should have seen yeshivos
reopening and the return of thousands of people who study Torah full- time to
their botei medrash. Tragically, yeshivos are empty, their lights
extinguished, and their doors locked. We have been bushwhacked, unable to
contemplate the sadness and tragedy of our situation. One day blends into the
next as we do our best to survive, hang on, put on a good face for our children,
and work to strengthen our faith, if only to bat away the fear and foreboding.
We had hoped that by now, life
would be returning to the old normal, but instead, we are still in the holding
pattern, waiting for permission to reopen, restart and reenergize. Alas, it has
not yet happened, and we still find ourselves in a semi-stupefied state. Things
are tough out there and probably will be getting tougher before easing up, but
as people of faith, we remain hopeful and assured about the future in tough times
as in good times. We do not become broken or sad in times like these. We
remember that Hashem will enable us to persevere and that all that happens is
for the good.
Rav Nochum Yasser was a Yerushalmi
Yid of old who would daven every day at the Kosel. He once
took ill and was unable to continue his custom. A friend of his came to visit
him, and when he got up to leave, he blessed Reb Nochum that he should swiftly
recover and be able to return to davening at the Kosel. Rav
Yasser became upset with his visitor and said to him, “If Hashem forced me to
stay at home, then the Kosel is right here.”
Hashem has us quarantined in our
homes with our families. He wants us to function in our homes, doing there what
we would normally do in other places and strengthening our relationships with
our loved ones. We should not be complaining. We should not bemoan the change
in our lives. Rather, we should recognize that what happens is from Hashem and
make the best of our situation. There are many activities we can undertake now
that we could not have done before. Plus, we can spend much more time with our
family members and establish closer relationships.
This week, we study Parshas
Kedoshim. Oftentimes, you will be discussing with someone an improper
activity and the person will ask you where the Torah forbids that action. The
proper response is that it is here in Parshas Kedoshim, where the Torah
commands us, “Kedoshim tihiyu,” to be a holy nation.
When we are out and about in the
big world, there is a temptation to act like everyone else, and if everyone
does something that is wrong, we may also do it. Now that we are locked up,
away from everyone, it is a good time to remind ourselves and our children that
the “everyone does it” heter doesn’t apply to us.
Kedoshim tihiyu. We have to be better. We have to
eat differently, sleep differently, conduct business differently, treat people
differently, and always carry ourselves in a way that will cause people to
praise the way we act.
Being home with our children
offers us the opportunity to teach them lessons such as this, through our
actions as well as our words. If they see us living our lives as kedoshim
even when life is difficult, it will make a lasting impression upon them, and
when things return to normal and they are outside once again with everyone
else, they will conduct themselves properly.
We learn this week about the mitzvah
of “ve’ohavta lereiacha kamocha,” to love your fellow Jew as much as you
love yourself. Now is a great time to inculcate that message – and its
importance – to our youngsters.
Lest you think that the mitzvah
is a hard-to-reach admonition, look at all the chesed being
performed by people in our community. The selfless devotion of Hatzolah members
is often cited as the prime example of the charitable work that people perform.
As the virus first began spreading, these people had no day or night, speeding
to homes and hospitals, trying desperately to save lives. Many of the
volunteers make house calls like doctors of old, checking on patients, taking
their vitals, and making sure that they are recovering well.
Funds were immediately set up to
raise money for the growing numbers of widows and orphans bereft of their
fathers and breadwinners. Millions of dollars were raised literally overnight
so that the children would not have to suffer the indignity of poverty along
with the crushing sudden loss of their loved ones.
Hundreds of people who have
recovered from the virus donated blood plasma which is used to help cure people
suffering from the disease.
Food banks were set up so that
people who either can’t afford food or are too overwhelmed to cook meals for
their families are able to pick up ready-made meals every day. Neighbors drop
what they are doing and check in on their older neighbors, ensuring that they
are well, fed and cared for.
It shouldn’t take a pandemic to
show the greatness of our people, but we live in cynical and difficult times,
when our inclination for kindness and brotherly love is not always apparent.
Our unseen enemy has roused a nation and brought its goodness to the fore.
Seeing that, should be a chizuk for us and an opportunity to teach our
children not to live just for themselves, but to think about and care for
others in times of good and bad.
Rashi quotes the Toras Kohanim,
which teaches that Parshas Kedoshim was delivered by Moshe Rabbeinu
personally to the entirety of Klal Yisroel because most of the body of
Torah is included there. The parsha begins with the command that we be
holy, “Kedoshim tihiyu,” and ends with a similar directive, “Vehiyisem
li kedoshim.”
Many commentators wonder how the
entirety of Am Yisroel could be commanded to be kedoshim, when it
is one of the highest levels a person can attain. Is it fair to demand of
simple folk that they rise to the highest rung on the ladder of devotion?
It appears that the word kedusha
is commonly misunderstood. We loosely translate the word to mean holy, as
connected to asceticism and austerity. Kedusha certainly means that, but
it means much more.
A life of kedusha means to
live with Hashem and to be enveloped by an awareness of His reality and
presence. To be a kadosh means to live with a vision and a dream. It
means seeing far, but living within the present. It means never losing sight of
the ultimate goal.
A person who lives with kedusha
is able to rise above our one-dimensional world and see a bigger and deeper
universe. He is thus able to accomplish so much more than others. Other people
don’t have time to spend with a boy who wants to learn, lovingly reviewing the Gemara
with him repeatedly until he understands it, and then moving along with him and
helping him develop into a great talmid chochom, but a kadosh
does, because his focus is on the larger goal of spreading Torah.
A kadosh doesn’t tire after
sitting with people and helping them through their problems. He doesn’t
complain when he speaks to a person for several hours, providing a comforting
shoulder and calm direction, because he is focused on the goal of having
another healthy person in Hashem’s army.
A kadosh has time and
infinite patience for davening, learning and bentching, because
he knows that he is studying Hashem’s words and he knows that he is connecting
with the Creator.
A kadosh sees himself as
part of a greater group, connected with all, and seeking to bring the world and
all he is connected with to a better place.
A person who cares about Hashem
and His people is a kadosh, because the decisions he makes aren’t guided
by personal negius or petty calculations, but by the one essential
truth. That is kedusha. His life is spiritual and consumed with big and
important things. He is not a slave to pettiness and silliness. Therefore, he
is a kadosh. Small things don’t get in his way. He remains focused on
the goals set for him in Parshas Kedoshim.
That is why this parsha of Kedoshim
Tihiyu was said by Moshe himself behakheil, to everyone. Every
person can be a kadosh. Every person can study Parshas Kedoshim
and follow its dictates.
Every interaction with another
person is an opportunity to show that you are a kadosh. If you present
yourself properly, carry yourself with dignity, dress in proper clothing, and
speak like a mentch, then you are mekadeish sheim Hashem and
demonstrate that you are not caught up in the vagaries of the moment.
If you have time for other people,
you show that you are on a higher plane. If you exhibit common courtesies, you
show virtues of kadosh. You demonstrate that you believe Hashem is with
you and watching you, and you behave the way Parshas Kedoshim
indicates you should.
Now, when we are spending more
time alone, we have an opportunity to set goals and find ways to succeed at
what is really important. Now, when we are by ourselves and have noted how
precarious life is, it is a good time to rid our hearts of negativity and
hatred. During this period when we have less to do with other people and much
of communal life has drawn to a halt, it is a good time to resolve to never
become involved in machlokes, but to pursue peace and constructive
actions that will serve to enhance and enrich our lives.
Every dark cloud has a silver
lining. Although we are living through a historic and trying time, we need to
maximize the advantages this period presents us. We can use the opportunity to daven
better, saying each word slowly and thinking about its meaning. Admit it:
You’re not rushing anywhere and have time to daven properly. We have
time to learn more and the ability to fully concentrate without the usual
pressures.
It is a time to imbue our children
with our mesorah, to be good, ehrliche people whose lives are
occupied with doing good and kedusha.
Life is full of
ups and downs, and we all know that this down period shall soon pass. Let us do
what we can so that when it’s over, we are tougher, sweeter, happier and better
than we were before this calamity began. We will not be able to bring back
those whose lives were taken, but we can emulate them, follow in their ways,
fill the gap they left with their passing, and prepare the world for the speedy
coming of Moshiach.