Freilecher, Freilecher, Freilecher
by Rabbi Pinchos Lipschutz
The most
dramatic and meaningful bond between Hashem and man is demonstrated in this
week’s parsha with the account of a people gathered at the foot of the
mountain, a faithful leader ascending the mountain and descending with the most
precious gift of all time, the Torah.
We all stood
there at that glorious moment encountering our Creator Who addressed us in His
Voice. He charged us with keeping His mitzvos, learning His Torah, and
safeguarding a sacred trust. He entrusted us with the DNA of creation, the keys
to forces of nature, and provided us with the ability to transcend what is
normally thought to be human limitations.
At the
mountain, Hashem informed us of our role, our title and our mission amongst the
people of this world. As the posuk says, “Ve’atem tihiyu li mamleches
kohanim vegoy kadosh.” He told us that we will be princes in His kingdom.
Following a
long and arduous escape from Europe, the Brisker Rov arrived in Eretz Yisroel
accompanied by his sons and daughters. Many quickly recognized the obligation
to help the noble family as they resettled. When the Mirrer rosh yeshiva,
Rav Leizer Yudel Finkel, heard that the Brisker Rov’s sons were wearing the
same suits in which they’d arrived, he sent an envelope with cash for the Rov,
writing on it that it is to be used to purchase new suits for his sons.
The Brisker
Rov returned the money with a note of appreciation. Rav Leizer Yudel approached
him and persisted that he accept the money to buy clothing for his children,
but the Rov remained adamant in his refusal.
Rav Leizer
Yudel asked him why he was so unwavering in refusing the gift. “Why should
these bochurim feel different than every other bochur their age?”
exclaimed the Mirrer rosh yeshiva.
The Brisker
Rov hesitated, unsure of whether to respond, and finally, out of respect for
Rav Leizer Yudel, explained his reasoning.
“It is good
for them to feel different,” said the Brisker Rov, “because they are
different.”
Being a
prince means that a different standard of behavior is expected. As the French
saying goes, noblesse oblige. There is a responsibility, an achrayus,
that comes with royalty.
We are
familiar with Chazal’s account of how Hashem circulated amongst the umos
ha’olam to offer them the Torah and how they all turned Him down.
Am
Yisroel accepted the Torah, and along with it
came the title of mamleches kohanim vegoy kadosh. Occupying that
position means, for example, that a talmid chochom who wears dirty
clothing is chayov misah (Shabbos 114a), because, as Rashi
explains, he causes the general opinion of talmidei chachomim and, by
extension, the Torah they represent to be downgraded.
In the
written accounts of the final moments of Rav Nachman of Breslov, it is related
that when he was too weak to speak or even move, he summoned his final strength
to ask his attendant to pull up the hem of his shirtsleeve so that it would not
protrude beyond his jacket. Rav Nachman was teaching a final lesson about seder,
order, and its place in the life of the oveid Hashem.
The last Rashi
in Parshas Yisro reinforces this concept. The Torah directs us not to
construct steps to ascend the mizbei’ach in order to show respect for
the stones. Rashi tells us that the posuk implies a kal
vachomer: Umah avonim halolu she’ein bohem daas lehakpid al bizyonam,
these stones lack the perception to care about the humiliation, yet the Torah
admonishes us not to treat them in a derogatory fashion. Certainly when dealing
with a person, who is fashioned in the image of the Creator and who is
particular about the way he is treated, must we be considerate of his feelings.
Great men are
never relaxed when it comes to the respect or dignity of another. They are
inherently respectful not just of people, but of objects.
When Rav
Simcha Zissel Broide, rosh yeshiva of the Chevron Yeshiva, was a bochur,
Rav Leizer Yudel Finkel met him and was impressed by his quick mind and
sterling middos. The Mirrer rosh yeshiva recommended that the bochur
travel to learn in the great yeshivos of Lita, much like those who seek aliyah
nowadays go to Eretz Yisroel to learn.
Rav Simcha
Zissel followed the advice and, for the rest of his life, he would share
stories of his experiences there.
He once
recounted how, during his time in Kelm, the washing cup was found away from its
proper place. This was considered a disaster by the bnei hayeshiva. Rav
Simcha Zissel’s rebbetzin heard him retell the story and she wondered
aloud: “From something like a washing cup being out of place does one make a Tisha
B’Av?” The Chevroner rosh yeshiva responded, “From a misplaced
washing cup one makes a Yom Kippur!”
In this pithy
response lies a penetrating truth. Respect and dignity are the hallmarks of
royalty, and if we truly felt our sacred role, we would be incapable of showing
disregard or a lack of respect. In Kelm, they lived in accordance with the
words of Chazal of “Kol Yisroel bnei melachim heim.” Any breach
in decorum was a disaster, because it represented a moment when someone forgot
their lofty station.
We are not
thoughtless, sloppy, careless individuals. We are the bearers of a regal
tradition and our every nuance needs to reflect that. It’s certainly easier to
remember our superior status when things are calm and easy. Amidst turbulence
and instability it becomes harder, but the fact is that a real relationship
doesn’t ever allow for forgetting.
In one of the
Al Cheit confessions that we recite on Yom Kippur, we bang our
chests and beg forgiveness “al cheit shechatanu lefonecha besimhon leivov,”
for the sins we committed through confusion of the heart.
Why do we
need to ask forgiveness for sins that are caused by confusion? Why are they not
onsim, mistakes, for which the Torah absolves us?
The answer is
given by way of a moshol. Imagine a man traveling on his boat. A vicious
wave tips over the boat and throws the man into the water. After initially
flailing about, he summons his inner strength and swims to the shore. When he
reaches safety, he realizes that in the confusion and turmoil, he forgot his
Cartier watch on his boat and that he will never see it again. Obviously, the
man is easily forgiven for forgetting about his watch under those conditions.
Now imagine
that the man is thrown from his boat by a strong wave, and after swimming to
shore, he realizes that he swam to safety without thinking about saving his
wife who was traveling with him. In all the tumult, he forgot about her. The
act of forgetfulness in such a situation is unforgivable. Their relationship
doesn’t allow for forgetting!
At Har
Sinai, we forged a relationship that endures through blood and fire, in
good times and bad. Ki anu amecha ve’atah Elokeinu. There is no
exclusion in times of confusion.
Today, in
2013, it’s as true as ever. We must seek to live with that reality, pledging
allegiance to the ideal and embodying it. Emunah and bitachon are
our lifeblood.
A daughter of
our friend, Reb Sholom Mordechai Rubashkin, got married last week. The bride’s
father did not spend the wedding day doing last-minute errands. He didn’t run
to the tailor to fix his frock or visit the barber to get a haircut. Nor did he
welcome any guests or fill in the last-minute place cards.
The avi
hakallah spent the day in prison, far away from the happy commotion. From
afar, he offered his tefillos for the young couple and a message for his
family and dear friends. He wrote a note to them, recounting a story told by
Reb Mendel Futerfas.
It is a tale
of a small-time musician, who made his livelihood traveling from town to town
with his instrument, playing in public places. The sound of his happy music
would draw a crowd, whom the musician would regale with joyous song for a long
while. In turn, the audience would fill his plate with coins, demonstrating
their appreciation for the musical entertainment.
Troubadours
would often travel with a helper. An unfortunate boy from a poor home that
could not afford to care for him was given over to the vagabond. In exchange
for food and clothing, the boy’s job was to clap and bang along with the
musician. He would also try to create a festive atmosphere by crying out, “Freilecher!
Freilecher! Freilecher!” spurring on the crowd, encouraging the
townspeople to permit the music to gladden their souls and pay the piper.
It happened
one day that the young hapless helper was distracted and wasn’t doing his job
properly. He was missing his cues to clap and bang along with his boss. The
musician tried to get his attention, but the tired helper was oblivious. He was
ruining the show and squandering the opportunity for a full plate of coins at the
end of the performance. Finally, the musician reached out and slapped the
day-dreaming helper across his face.
The poor
young man was humiliated and hurt. He was shattered, but the show had to go on.
Despite his intense pain and shame, the young man had a job to do, so he began
to clap and bang once again, crying, “Freilecher! Freilecher! Freilecher!”
as his reddened face told a different story.
The helper
realized that without this job, he had no home, no food and no drink, nor a
place to rest or keep warm. His life depended on maintaining his position as an
apprentice to the musician. With no choice, he swallowed his pride and agony,
and he pasted a smile on his face. He then continued clapping, smiling,
laughing, singing and shouting as loud and convincingly as he could.
Initially,
his enthusiasm was only external, as he suffered inside. However, quickly, even
as he was in pain, he realized that his agony would soon pass and that his
essence, as one who was grateful for and happy with his job, would once again
define him. Thus, even in his moment of pain, he was able to shout, “Freilecher!
Freilecher! Freilecher!” and encourage the crowd to be cheerful,
because he recognized that he himself had ample reason to be happy.
His existence
was all about him assisting the musician, and everything in his life was
connected to this job. He understood that his action of banging and clapping
would ensure him his job and his life. When that realization hit home, he
himself became freilach once again and he cheered on the crowd.
Reb Mendel
Futerfas would conclude his tale by stating that the yeitzer horah tries
to cause Yidden to fall into yei’ush and bitterness, but we refuse.
Instead, we are “Freilecher! Freilecher! Freilecher!” as we sing
through the pain, focused on how fortunate we really are.
This was the
message of the avi hakallah, who lives with the sting of the slap, but
is able to transcend the pain and appreciate that the One Who can give the
rebuke is the One Who gives life itself. Perhaps the joy at that special chasunah
last week was reflective of that message, a united dance of “Freilecher!
Freilecher! Freilecher!”
Am
Yisroel is bound in a deep relationship with
Hashem. We are special. We are princes in His kingdom. No matter where we are
and what nisyonos we are facing, we cannot forget that. We cannot become
depressed or despondent when things don’t go our way. We have to remember that
our avodah and our existence are tied to the Melech Malchei
Hamelochim Who controls every movement on earth. We have to absorb the
slaps, but remain loyal and freilach.
Being part of
the mamleches kohanim vegoy kadosh is a responsibility, but it is a
happy one, which continuously reminds us of who we are, what our purpose here
is, and what we will merit if we fulfill it.
And so, as we
once again hear the Aseres Hadibros being read with the taam ha’elyon,
we relive the glory that was back then, and every Yiddishe neshomah
feels a rush as we rise in shul, turn our eyes heavenward, and say,
“Here we are, loyal as ever, waiting patiently for You to take us home.”
Freilecher,
freilecher, freilecher.