Giving Selflessly
by Rabbi Pinchos Lipschut
Rashi in this week’s parsha (50:5) tells of a strange financial discussion. Yaakov Avinu yearned to be buried next to his parents and grandparents in the Me’oras Hamachpeilah. To ensure that his children wouldn’t have any difficulties realizing his desire, he met with his brother, Eisov, to negotiate a clear purchase of the plot.
Rashi relates that Yaakov took the gold and silver he had amassed
in the house of Lovon and piled it on the table. He offered it to Eisov in
exchange for the plot in the Me’orah.
Meforshim are bothered by this encounter. Many ask why, if Yaakov was
coming to negotiate, he would immediately offer all of his money. Why did he
not begin the discussion with a low offer and proceed to raise it as necessary
to make the deal?
One answer
given is that Eisov had a single zechus over his brother, one area in
which he had excelled: kibbud av. During the years Yaakov spent in chutz
la’aretz, Eisov remained at his father’s side, earning untold merit.
Yaakov was
addressing this point. “Eisov,” he told him, “I know that you feel that your
eternal place is with our father, since you served him so faithfully while I
was away, but know this: The true measure of what a person feels or believes is
shown in what he treasures. The fact that I was in chutz la’aretz
becoming wealthy cannot be held against me if all that money is meaningless to
me. So here it is. Take it.”
By accepting
the money in exchange for the burial spot, Eisov conceded that money was his
primary value. Gold and silver were more valuable to him than his relationship
with his father.
Yaakov Avinu
turned the tables on his wily brother, showing his reverence for his father and
disdain for the money, and thus earning his eternal place in the hallowed cave
of our forefathers.
The most
common in a long list of hateful anti-Semitic epithets hurled our way
throughout the ages has been that Jews love money, control the banks, and hoard
millions in secret accounts.
This Rashi,
which is based on a Medrash, through discussion of a brotherly
financial deal, sheds light on reality. The word kessef, say the seforim,
has the same root as the word kissufim, yearnings. The longing that
man has to amass worldly goods is a parable for the most meaningful kissufim,
the pining of a neshomah for the divine. Yaakov told Eisov to take the
whole pile of gold and silver he slaved for in Lovon’s house, earning his
fortune by working through freezing nights and scorching days. However, he knew
that money is of temporary value. It has no permanence, unless it is invested
in eternity. To Yaakov, money was a vehicle to enable him to become more attached
to the divine. To Eisov, amassing a fortune was the ultimate goal.
Being
conscious of the purpose of financial blessings is an extremely difficult nisayon.
Not all merit passing that test, for often, in the process of accumulating
wealth, man loses sight of its purpose. Many have said that the pitfalls of
wealth supersede those of poverty. People become enamored with their wealth,
seeing it as an end unto itself, and waste it on pursuing temporary pleasures
which are soon forgotten, instead of seeking out long-lasting investments in
the matters upon which the earth’s existence depends.
A wealthy man
expressed his frustration to the Chofetz Chaim regarding his inability
to donate large amounts of money to tzedakah. He said that when he was a
poor yeshiva bochur, he pleaded with Hashem to bless him
with wealth so that he could generously help people. However, when his prayers
were answered and he attained financial success, he found himself unable to dip
his hand into his pocket for others.
The Chofetz
Chaim responded with a moshol about a man who was walking down a
street and saw a drunk rolling in the gutter, covered in filth. The passerby
shook his head in disgust and said, “Were I to drink, I would never behave that
way.”
The Chofetz
Chaim smiled and explained the fallacy of the man’s reasoning.
“While he is
sober, he has control over his thought process, but when he is drunk, he no
longer has control,” said the Chofetz Chaim. “He is neither responsible
nor aware of how he behaves. A person who is sober does not know how he would
behave under the influence of alcohol.
“So too, the
poor man has no concept of the pull that money has over its owner and the
difficulty one who has attained wealth has in parting with it. When you were a
destitute bochur, you were able to see things clearly, but now, you are
controlled by your money, not by the clear thoughts of your youth.”
In recent
years, even as the economy has entered a tailspin from which it never really
recovered, we have seen individuals in our community rise to this nisayon.
Thanks to the generosity of individuals who follow the lesson of Yaakov Avinu,
new mosdos have been built, yeshivos have been opened and
expanded, and vital initiatives and programs have been launched to help others.
Ma’asei
avos simon labonim. Yaakov Avinu’s offer to Eisov is a simon,
a sign, illuminating our path ever since.
Yosef, who
battled temptations in the exile, provides inspiration until this very day. Far
removed from his father and family, he maintained his integrity and belief
despite the many obstacles thrown his way. The Ramban (47:14) writes
that the Torah describes how Yosef Hatzaddik saved the Egyptian economy
not only to portray his wisdom, but to teach that despite all the money that
passed through his hands and the opportunity to siphon some cash for himself,
he remained loyal and faithful to his boss.
Through this,
Yosef earned the love of the people, because the Ribbono Shel Olam, Who
bestows grace upon man, provides chein to those who fear Him. Yosef’s
faithfulness allowed him to be both effective and beloved.
We hear an
echo of this Ramban about the chein bestowed upon those who work
with real yiras Shomayim, seeing money not as an end, but as a goal with
which to accomplish great things. Those who are selfless in their dedication to
others ultimately earn their respect and love.
Two great
leaders of pre-war Yahadus, the Chofetz Chaim and Rav Avrohom
Mordechai Alter, the Gerrer Rebbe, once traveled together by train to the
capital city of Warsaw for an important mission.
In those
days, the train would wait for some time at each station. Chassidim
would pass word to each other along the Rebbe’s path, and they would throng to
the local stations. For many, it represented the best chance to catch a glimpse
of the Rebbe. As the train approached the first stop, the Rebbe’s gabbai
told him that they were almost at the station. The Rebbe rose to oblige the
people waiting on the platform. The Rebbe asked the Chofetz Chaim to
join him, but the elderly giant said that he was worried that the kavod
received from so many people would affect him. He said that he would remain in
his seat.
The Rebbe
turned to the Chofetz Chaim. “Fahr Yidden’s veggen, to satisfy
the sincere, authentic will of Jews to express kavod haTorah, it’s worth
enduring the heat of gehennom,” said the Rebbe.
Upon hearing
this, the Chofetz Chaim linked arms with the Rebbe, joining him.
To benefit Yidden, he was prepared to suffer. Together, they stepped out
at that station, and at each subsequent one on the way to their destination.
Two humble
giants, sacrificing their own inhibitions for the benefit of others. Such has
been Jewish leadership throughout the ages, giants overcoming their own
reticence and desire for privacy and personal growth for the needs of the time,
never deriving any benefit for themselves.
In the news,
we read about how the newly empowered American president is playing class
warfare, seeking to divide the people along lines of financial success under
the guise of righting the economy. There is no one who thinks that raising
taxes in a time of economic uncertainty will encourage people to spend money
and fuel growth. Were the government to take all the money of all the rich
people, it would not be enough to fund the government for even eight days. But
the president and his allies in politics, the media and intelligentsia, press
on with the plan because their primary interest does not concern the country’s
economic health, but rather their own narrow agenda.
That type of
poor leadership cannot lead to long-term success.
After much
public consternation, Secretary of State Hillary Clinton appointed a commission
to investigate what went wrong in Benghazi, Libya, on September 11 of this
year. The report was released last week, but Clinton wasn’t even interviewed
and has been totally exonerated. This is because no one seems to really care
about what happened and what went wrong there, leading to the death of four
Americans, including the US ambassador to Libya. What we have is yet another
bureaucratic report and another set of recommendations that will be ignored.
The president escapes blame for the lies he told, as does Mrs. Clinton for the
failings of her office. Obama is free to ignore Benghazi, while Clinton’s road
to the presidency in 2016 remains cleared. Republicans are tongue-tied.
President
Barack Obama would like former Senator Chuck Hagel as defense secretary, though
Hagel is a notorious anti-Semite. Politicians, such as New York’s Senator Chuck
Schumer, who pride themselves on their fidelity to Israel and Jewish causes
were remarkably quiet on the selection, lest they incur the administration’s
wrath. Once again, they prove that their prime motivation is personal
advancement and enrichment. Examples abound in all areas of public service of
people in leadership positions acting irresponsibly. Ultimately, the communal
welfare suffers and leaders are thought of derisively.
The
cornerstone of this week’s parsha, the close to the drama and the highs
and lows of Sefer Bereishis, is the Birchos Yaakov. The father of
our nation gathered his children around his bed and addressed each one,
imparting brachos that would define the unique role each sheivet would
play in our people’s history.
Rav Yaakov
Kamenetzky explains that they are referred to as the “Birchos Yaakov,”
even though, upon examination, one can readily see that some of the shevotim
didn’t receive brachos, but mussar. This is because the fact that
Yaakov realized and appreciated that each of his sons was a distinct
personality, with unique character traits and middos, was itself a brochah.
A parental perspective that celebrates differences and allows individuals to
flourish with their unique gifts will result in brochah for those
children.
In Tehillim,
Dovid Hamelech asked Hashem to open the gates of righteousness for him: “Zeh
hasha’ar laHashem - This is the gate of Hashem.” Commentators question why
Dovid uses the singular “zeh,” referring to the gate of Hashem, but then
asks, in the plural, that the gates be opened for him: “pis’chu li sha’arei
tzedek.” One answer given is that the gematriah of “zeh” is
12, a hint to the twelve paths of the shevotim which all lead to one
focal point, the sha’ar laHashem. Yaakov Avinu enabled each one of his
sons to maximize his gifts and contribute his abilities and strengths to the
others. Because each shared selflessly with the others, shevotim were
created from twelve individuals and a nation was born.
When we
demonstrate through our actions that we understand and appreciate why Hashem
has blessed us with financial ability, everyone gains. When we all contribute
that with which Hashem has blessed us for the benefit of each other, we gain
and the community gains. When we give selflessly, we grow. We cause each other
to grow and enable success to take root.
One of the
most popular columns in the Yated is the Chinuch Roundtable. It
is worth mentioning that this week is the two hundred and fiftieth edition of
the column, representing five years of providing counsel, empathy and direction
to the parents of a nation who want to be mechaneich their children
properly.
The educators
who comprise the Roundtable are all busy people with responsibility for mosdos,
talmidim, and, in many cases, daunting financial burdens as well, yet they
find the time and energy to respond to their searching questioners. They live
with a responsibility to help every Yid they possibly can. They
don’t just teach and lead. They inspire.
They embody
the teaching of the Medrash which says that Hakadosh Boruch Hu didn’t
trust our biblical leaders with public responsibility until they displayed
dedication to individual sheep, really feeling the thirst and desperation of
His creatures. The panelists care for each parent and each talmid.
We are
honored to be the vehicle for their ideas, messages and insights. May the zechus
horabbim stand by them, their families and their students, bringing them brochah
and hatzlachah.
May Hakadosh Boruch Hu shower
our people with parnossah b’revach, and may our roshei yeshiva,
rabbonim, mechanchim and askonim continue to build, expand and merit
the ultimate redemption, which will soon be upon us in the merit of this
great mitzvah, veshovehah b’tzedakah.