Believe in Yourself
By Rabbi Pinchos Lipschutz
With Parshas
Vayechi, the fascinating sefer of Bereishis draws to a close.
Without giving any detail about anything that went on in Yaakov’s life during
his seventeen years in Mitzrayim, the Torah skips to the period when he
was weakening and approaching death. Yaakov called for Yosef and made him swear
that he would guarantee his burial in the Meoras Hamachpeilah with
Avrohom and Yitzchok.
The pesukim
go into detail about Yaakov’s discussions with Yosef concerning Efraim and
Menashe before telling us that Yaakov gathered his sons for them to hear what
would happen to them in the times of Moshiach. The pesukim don’t
tell us what he told them, and Chazal teach that Hashem prevented him
from revealing those secrets.
Yaakov then
launches into a poetic conversation with his sons. The conversation is referred
to by the posuk (49:28) as brachos that Yaakov transmitted to his
beloved children prior to his passing. However, if you examine the pesukim
and what he told them, they don’t appear to be brachos, but rather a
verbalization of each son’s attributes, mostly positive, but some negative. If
so, why do we refer to what he said as brachos?
Rav Chaim
Soloveitchik was once trying to make a point to a student at the Volozhiner
Yeshiva who was falling behind in his learning. He spoke to him and said, “You
know, my dear talmid, that the horse is a very strong animal,
constructed of muscle. It can work hard, run fast, pull heavy loads, and
perform a variety of tasks. Yet, this animal is pulled by a youngster with a
rope and never thinks of trampling the youngster and breaking free. When the
horse’s owner, who has ridden on its back for long stretches of time, reaches
his destination, he ties his horse to a simple post with a simple rope, and the
horse just stands there and doesn’t try to run away.
“Why is it that
such a strong beast is so docile?” asked Rav Chaim. “It is because the horse
doesn’t appreciate its strength. If it would, a piece of rope would never be
able to contain it.
“The reason you
are not doing better in your learning is because you don’t appreciate your kochos.”
Similarly,
Yaakov, upon addressing his children one last time, gave them what they needed
to excel and carry out their missions. He did this not by blessing them per se,
but by enumerating for each one their strengths and abilities. By doing this,
he gave them the encouragement and motivation they would need to be proper Shivtei
Kah. Thus, they and their shevet would be able to live up to what
was expected of them in Eretz Yisroel and in golus, building and
strengthening Yiddishkeit and preparing the world for the ultimate geulah.
There is no
better brocha than appreciating our gifts and using them for the tachlis
for which Hashem placed us on this earth. Otherwise, we can go through life
living simply, not learning or accomplishing much, blissfully unaware of our
potential for greatness and ability to accomplish great things.
A person who
doesn’t appreciate his strengths, or is not aware of them, is held back from
excelling and fulfilling his shlichus, much the same as that Volozhiner talmid
who was not able to keep up with the others.
Also, the
ability of a person to recognize his gifts and strengths is vital for personal
growth, fulfillment, and contributing meaningfully to society. When a person
acknowledges his abilities, he not only gains self-confidence, but also
cultivates a deeper sense of purpose. This awareness enables us to navigate
challenges, pursue goals, and contribute positively to the world around us.
Self-awareness
is key to unlocking our potential. Moreover, recognizing our strengths builds
self-confidence. Confidence is not about arrogance or superiority, but about a
grounded belief in a person’s singular abilities. Appreciating the gifts Hashem
has endowed us with also helps us face challenges with a sense of assurance,
knowing that Hashem provided us with the tools and skills to navigate difficult
situations. Life is full of ups and downs, and those who understand their
strengths are better equipped to overcome setbacks with a positive attitude.
This also
answers the Ramban’s question of why Yaakov made Yosef swear that he
would make sure that Yaakov would be buried in the Meoras Hamachpeilah.
Why was it necessary for Yosef to swear that he would fulfill his father’s
request? Did Yaakov not trust his beloved son?
We can explain
that Yaakov feared that the Mitzriyim would raise objections to removing him
out of the country for burial. He wanted Yosef to know that his father believed
that he had the ability to carry out his wish. By swearing, Yosef confirmed
that he recognized that despite how difficult this would be, he possessed the
power to see it through to the end.
Often, when
people would ask the Steipler Gaon to daven for them, he would tell them
that they should daven for themselves. Every person has the ability to
cry out to Hashem, and if he does so with proper kavonah, emunah,
and bitachon, Hashem will respond to his tefillos. Hashem never
forsakes a Jew and is always watching over him, waiting for the person to
properly reach out to Him. No Jew is ever alone.
The
Klausenberger Rebbe was raising money to build his Laniado Hospital in Netanya.
He went to see a wealthy man and asked him for a handsome donation for the
project. The man heard the pitch, but was noncommittal in his response. He told
the rebbe, “I’ll do what I can,” which usually means not too much.
The rebbe
responded, “Do you know what you are capable of doing? Do you really think that
you know what you can do? A person has no idea of his capabilities.”
He continued,
“Let me tell you about myself. I was already a Rebbe before the war. I lived in
the city of Klausenburg and was immersed in avodas Hashem day and night.
As a result, I was weak and sickly. When I wanted to bring a Gemara to
the shiur I was saying, I didn’t have the strength to carry it and would
ask a talmid to carry it for me. The gabbai would carry my tallis
and tefillin because they were also too heavy for me to carry.
“Then the war
broke out and I was imprisoned in numerous labor camps. When I was in the
Mühldorf concentration camp, the Nazis would give me 110-pound bags of cement
to carry on back. And, do you know what? I did it!
“How was it
possible? The answer is that a person does not know what he is capable of
doing. He thinks that a task is too difficult for him, but he really has the
strength to do that and a lot more. So be careful when you say that you will do
what you can, because you have no idea what you are obligating yourself to!”
Yosef had been
tested and had demonstrated his spiritual strength in a degenerate society.
Mitzrayim was infamous for its culture of moral decay. By maintaining his
righteousness in such an environment, Yosef attained a stature almost
comparable to that of the avos. He imbued his descendants and all of Klal
Yisroel with the spiritual fortitude to rise above temptation and seductive
influences in all their lands of exile.
When Yosef
brings his sons to Yaakov for a final brocha, Yaakov blesses them with
the immortal words, “Becha yevoreich Yisroel leimor, yesimcha Elokim
k’Efraim v’ch’Menashe.” For all time, Jewish fathers will bless their
children that they grow to be like Efraim and Menashe, the sons of Yosef.
A hint to the
reason why may be found in the first Rashi of the parsha. Parshas
Vayechi is unique in that it is setumah, meaning that there is no
extra space between it and the preceding parsha, unlike the general rule
that a parsha begins on a new line or that it is separated from the
previous one by a space of nine letters. In explaining why the parsha is
setumah, Rashi notes that with the passing of Yaakov Avinu, the shibud
intensified. In other words, the golus of Mitzrayim – particularly the
pain and the challenge of being a lonely minority in a hostile environment –
first began to manifest at this point.
When Yaakov
realized that his end was near, he decided that it was time to prepare his
children and their children and descendants for life in golus.
Yosef was the
son who had arrived first in golus and had paved the way for the Bnei
Yisroel there. Though Yosef lived alone in golus, he lived an
exemplary life, raising worthy, upright children. Yaakov singled them out for
praise and showcased them as an example of how Jews all through the generations
would be able to survive the golus.
Living alone in
the swamp of evil, their father imbued them with the strength he knew that he
had and made sure they did too. Yaakov demonstrated to the other shevotim
and to Jews for all time that even in darkness, even in exile, even when all
alone, they all possessed the strength of Yosef and his children and would be
able to remain gutteh Yidden.
Yaakov turned to
Menashe and Efraim and said, “Becha yevoreich Yisroel,” because although
they were born in and grew up in Mitzrayim, before Yaakov came and before
Yehudah set up yeshivos in their country, they still were as holy as
their cousins who had grown up under the direct influence of Yaakov.
Yaakov said that
for all time, wherever they find themselves, Jews should study the example of
these two scions of greatness and point to them as examples of how they want
their own children to develop, despite the tumah and moral bankruptcy
around them.
Yosef and his
children not only demonstrated that the offspring of Yaakov have the ability to
live and excel anywhere the golus leads them, but Yosef is also the one
who paves the way for geulah. He is the one who returned Yaakov to Eretz
Yisroel. He is the one who will defeat Eisov. He is the one who will herald the
coming of Moshiach, because he was the first to be tested in golus
and thus first to recognize his strengths, which lifted him and enabled him to
raise children equal to the shevotim, showing them and us the way, not
only to survive, but to be a shining example for all time of tzidkus and
prishus.
Let us never say
that the task is too difficult for us. Let us never say that we are doomed to
mediocrity and the limitations of what we can learn and accomplish.
At times, people
fall into the trap of believing that their current circumstances or past
failures define their potential. This mindset can create a false sense of
security in the ordinary and prevent one from striving for excellence.
Mediocrity, though comfortable, stifles growth and keeps people from reaching
the heights of their true capabilities. When we view ourselves as incapable of
more, we shut the door on the opportunities that lie beyond our self-imposed
boundaries.
When we say that
Gemara is too difficult for us to understand, when we say that we can
never understand a Reb Chaim, when we say that our minds weren’t made to work
out a machlokes between Rashi and Tosafos, it is because
we sell ourselves short and don’t believe in our brainpower. If we would apply
ourselves, believe in our abilities, and work hard, horeving on the sugya,
we would understand it and enjoy it.
People are
usually capable of more than they think. Growth requires a shift in
perspective. We must be able to understand that we are not limited by past
experiences or present circumstances, but are capable of learning, evolving,
and surpassing what we think is possible. Mediocrity sets in when we settle for
“good enough” and don’t push ourselves to do better, be better, and reach
higher.
Excellence is
not reserved for a select few. It is within everyone’s reach. To attain it, we
need to have the courage to push beyond self-doubt. The path to excelling in
life is paved with tefillah, emunah, and bitachon, along
with hard work and self-belief.
We would do
ourselves well to constantly be aware that Hashem endowed us with tremendous
strengths and abilities, and every person’s strengths are different. Hashem
gave us what we need to pursue excellence in Torah, in tefillah, and in
doing mitzvos properly and in a timely and preferred fashion. He gave us
what we need to do well in yeshiva and school. He gave us what we need
to get married and then provide for our families. He gave us what we need to
get through life in a successful and fulfilling way.
All we have to
do is appreciate those gifts, recognize how blessed we are as children of
Avrohom, Yitzchok, and Yaakov, and know that each one of us can be like Efraim
and Menashe.